How to be a Better Friend
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At my school, I witnessed two of my friends have a huge fight and end their friendship all together. It made me very upset to see two of my friends become each other's enemies. In order to prevent this from happening to any of you I've come up with a few tips on how to be better friends:
1. Show them you care
This may seem like something very obvious but going out of your way just to show them how much you care can really make your friend see how much they mean to you. For example: if you're going over to meet up with them and planned to get a coffee, get them one too (unless they don't like coffee)
2. Affection
Ok don't misunderstand me when I say affection. What I mean is giving them a hug when you see them not just a sloppy hello. Give them a nice big bear hug to show how much you missed seeing them or how much you're going to miss them when you leave. You'll be surprised at how much they'll love it (unless for some reason they don't like hugs or they aren't affectionate)
3. Trust
Trust is something that is very important in any type of relationship. This can be kept by making sure you stick to your promises. If you make a promise, make sure you can keep it and if, for whatever reason, you do have a problem in sticking to the promise then talk to them about it. Don't assume they will just magically know. Also don't expect them to be 100% okay with it at first either. They may get upset about it and that's perfectly alright but make sure you apologize to them.
4. Don't use them
If the only reason you're 'friends' with the person is so you can get something from them then you should stop it right now. It's not fair for you to be using someone for your own benefit and not giving back. I've heard of so many one sided friendships that just lead to chaos. If you are the one who feels like they're being used then speak to your friend. It could just be a misunderstanding or you may be be able to stop yourself from being hurt down the line.
5. Loyalty
You wouldn't want to hear that your friend had been talking trash behind your back so don't do it to them. It's cliche but it needs to be stuck to. It's not ok to talk down to your friend just because he/she isn't there to defend themselves. If you're friends with him/her then you should be the one defending them when someone else is talking trash about them.
6. Space
Being an introvert, I know how much sometimes you just want to be alone but it doesn't matter if you're an introvert or an extrovert. We all need a little space sometimes and we need to respect our friends if they want to be alone even if you want to spend time with them.
7. Go beyond expectations.
Good friendships aren't based on the stereotypical view of how friends should act together. Don't just give advise to their solution - offer to actually help them were you can. Go above and beyond everything to be there for you friend. Have no limits when it comes to your bestie :)
I really hope these tips have helped in fix or improving your friendships :)
Don't forget that you are friends with the person, there isn't a duty or set schedule to hang out with them. Go wild and surprise them and show them you love them. Everyone needs friends in this world so enjoy them! :)
Love you all
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